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There are two words for backbiting, one is GHEEBAT, and the
other is TOHMAT. When you speak about someone, and what
you say is TRUE, then this is GHEEBAT. When you speak about
someone, and what you say is FALSE, then this is TOHMAT.
The Prophet Mohammed (s.a.w.s.) once said, "O Abu Zar, keep yourself
away from backbiting because it is worse than adultery ...
After committing adultery, if one repents, Allah forgives him, but the BACKBITER
can not be pardoned unless he has been pardoned by the one about whom he has been backbiting."
Imagine you saw someone you know go into a pub (a place where people go to drink alcohol).
If you were to tell the world that this man has been drinking, then that is Tohmat.
How do you know he was drinking? He could have broken down, and gone in the pub to
use the phone, or ask directions.
In Islam, you should always give the benefit of the doubt to others.
Even if someone does do something bad, you should hide it, and not
tell the whole world. How would you like it if Allah (SWT) told the
whole world the evil that you or I perform?
We all commit sins at one time or another. If Allah (SWT) can hide our faults,
then you should hide the faults of others.
In Dua e Kumail, we say to Allah (SWT), "O He who covers defects ... " In the Noble Qur'an, Allah (SWT) tells us: "... And do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the dead flesh of his brother?" (49:12)
This shows us that backbiting is as bad as eating the flesh of your dead brother.
This means that once someone you know, i.e., your brother/sister in Islam has done
something bad, they have killed their own reputation. By telling others what they
have done, you are enjoying and gaining at their loss. It is as if you are eating and
feasting on the reputation they have already destroyed.
In the early days of the first few Imams, there were two men. Let us call the fist one Haroon
and the second one Khalid. One day Khalid started telling everybody bad things about Haroon.
Khalid was spreading lies all around. After a few days Haroon heard about this.
The first thing he did was to go home and put all his money, valuable gold and silver
in a big bag and then took the bag to Khalid's house.
When Khalid saw Haroon coming he became scared because he thought that Haroon
had come to beat him up. Khalid came out of his house and fell on his knees and
begged to Haroon, "O Haroon, I am really sorry, I did not mean to tell tales
about you, O please do not beat me!"
Haroon said, "I have not come to beat you, I have come to give you this money, and this wealth."
Khalid had the shock of his life. Haroon continued, " Khalid, I have come to thank you, here have
this wealth of mine." Khalid stood up and asked, "Why are you giving me wealth when I have
insulted you and spoilt your name among the people?"
Haroon replied. "The Prophet Mohammed (s.a.w.s.)has said that if one person TALKS BEHIND THE BACK of another, the thawaab (reward) of the first person gets transferred to the second." he continued, "So now that you have spoken bad of me behind my back, I am thanking you for giving me all your thawaab. This money is too little for the amount of thawaab that you have given me."
This shows how bad Gheebat and Tohmat are.
Once there was a man who did Tohmat of our Sixth Imam Sadiq (a.s.). Imam Sadiq (a.s.) did no know about it until a few days later when one of his 'friends' came to him and said, "Oh Imam, I have heard terrible news. This person has been going around and saying this about you."
Imam Sadiq (a.s.) became angry at his 'friend'. He said, "Think of the person who did Tohmat towards me as if he shot an arrow at my body. I did not hear him so it is as if the arrow missed me; But by telling me this news, you have picked up the arrow from the ground and have hit me with it."
It is the duty of a good Muslim to stop others from speaking ill of a person, and if that is not possible he should go away from the people who are talking ill.
other is TOHMAT. When you speak about someone, and what
you say is TRUE, then this is GHEEBAT. When you speak about
someone, and what you say is FALSE, then this is TOHMAT.
The Prophet Mohammed (s.a.w.s.) once said, "O Abu Zar, keep yourself
away from backbiting because it is worse than adultery ...
After committing adultery, if one repents, Allah forgives him, but the BACKBITER
can not be pardoned unless he has been pardoned by the one about whom he has been backbiting."
Imagine you saw someone you know go into a pub (a place where people go to drink alcohol).
If you were to tell the world that this man has been drinking, then that is Tohmat.
How do you know he was drinking? He could have broken down, and gone in the pub to
use the phone, or ask directions.
In Islam, you should always give the benefit of the doubt to others.
Even if someone does do something bad, you should hide it, and not
tell the whole world. How would you like it if Allah (SWT) told the
whole world the evil that you or I perform?
We all commit sins at one time or another. If Allah (SWT) can hide our faults,
then you should hide the faults of others.
In Dua e Kumail, we say to Allah (SWT), "O He who covers defects ... " In the Noble Qur'an, Allah (SWT) tells us: "... And do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the dead flesh of his brother?" (49:12)
This shows us that backbiting is as bad as eating the flesh of your dead brother.
This means that once someone you know, i.e., your brother/sister in Islam has done
something bad, they have killed their own reputation. By telling others what they
have done, you are enjoying and gaining at their loss. It is as if you are eating and
feasting on the reputation they have already destroyed.
In the early days of the first few Imams, there were two men. Let us call the fist one Haroon
and the second one Khalid. One day Khalid started telling everybody bad things about Haroon.
Khalid was spreading lies all around. After a few days Haroon heard about this.
The first thing he did was to go home and put all his money, valuable gold and silver
in a big bag and then took the bag to Khalid's house.
When Khalid saw Haroon coming he became scared because he thought that Haroon
had come to beat him up. Khalid came out of his house and fell on his knees and
begged to Haroon, "O Haroon, I am really sorry, I did not mean to tell tales
about you, O please do not beat me!"
Haroon said, "I have not come to beat you, I have come to give you this money, and this wealth."
Khalid had the shock of his life. Haroon continued, " Khalid, I have come to thank you, here have
this wealth of mine." Khalid stood up and asked, "Why are you giving me wealth when I have
insulted you and spoilt your name among the people?"
Haroon replied. "The Prophet Mohammed (s.a.w.s.)has said that if one person TALKS BEHIND THE BACK of another, the thawaab (reward) of the first person gets transferred to the second." he continued, "So now that you have spoken bad of me behind my back, I am thanking you for giving me all your thawaab. This money is too little for the amount of thawaab that you have given me."
This shows how bad Gheebat and Tohmat are.
Once there was a man who did Tohmat of our Sixth Imam Sadiq (a.s.). Imam Sadiq (a.s.) did no know about it until a few days later when one of his 'friends' came to him and said, "Oh Imam, I have heard terrible news. This person has been going around and saying this about you."
Imam Sadiq (a.s.) became angry at his 'friend'. He said, "Think of the person who did Tohmat towards me as if he shot an arrow at my body. I did not hear him so it is as if the arrow missed me; But by telling me this news, you have picked up the arrow from the ground and have hit me with it."
It is the duty of a good Muslim to stop others from speaking ill of a person, and if that is not possible he should go away from the people who are talking ill.
