Kya Larki Talaq Ke Dar Se Zulam Sehti Rahay?

M Shah said:
ye baaaaaat !
zbrdast inaya ..bohot acha ..yahi baat thi magar jumlo aor alfaaz ka intekhab ap ka bht drust hai ...clear cut samjha deya aap ne ye daikh bariaapi ..inaya ne bht acha explain keya ...very g00d
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Ji buhat acha or buhat bhtrin, or hum bhi inaya se100% agree hain lykin wo hi bat k fesla to khud ko hi karna hai, sath rah kar zindagi k maze lain ya dor rah kar tnhaiun k,
 
bariaapi said:
Ji buhat acha or buhat bhtrin, or hum bhi inaya se100% agree hain lykin wo hi bat k fesla to khud ko hi karna hai, sath rah kar zindagi k maze lain ya dor rah kar tnhaiun k,
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han g r unhay apni zindagi k faislay k liay dosrun par dependent nai karna chahiay bulk apna faisla khud karna chahiay
 

Hafsa Q said:
Inaya sis, biwi par Islam kahein yeh nahi kehta ke us par uskey susraal walon ki khidmat farz hai. Us par uskey walidein aur sohar ki khimadat fazr hai. Han agar woh yeh kaam khush isloobi se anjaam dena chaheye to de sakti hai, warna us par farz hargiz nahi hai. Jo log apni biwion ko ghar walon ke rehm o karam par choor jatey hein un mein phir doori paida ho jati hai, I totally agree.




bariaapi, apney kaha ke meine kuch kaun nahi kaha. Here is my point of view
Yeh issue hi Islam ki doori ki waja se khara hota hai. Islam mein achey ikhlaaq, dar-guzar aur mohabbat ki talqeen ki gai hai. Jo ke hamari society mein nhi miltey. Maa baap ko chaheye ke apni beetiyon ki sahi tabiyat karein, jaisa Islam mein bataya gaya hai, sabr karna sikhaien kaun key unhein naslein sawarni hoti hein. Beta hai to ussey bhi Islami tarbiyat dein. Shaadi kartey waqt log taleem deekhtey hein, yeh nhi deekhtey ke isko deen ki samajh kitni hai, larka ho ya larki. Aur yehi waja baad mein aik bara masla ban kar samney ati hai.

Hamari society mein aik maa apni beti ke liye jaisa soocti hai, waisey hi apni bahu ka liye kaun nhi soochti? Yehi farq gharon mein is tarha key masley paida karta hai. Iska hal yeh hai ke apney rawayun ko sudharein. Ghalti aik tarafa nhi hoti, dono qusoor waar hotey hein

Aurat ko Islam ne haq diya hai ke woh talaq le sakti hai, lekin agar soochein to yeh sab se na pasandeeda qaraar diya gaya hai. Talaq ki naubat aye hi nahi agar hum sab ke andar ikhlaaq hun. Dar guzar aur sabar bhi aik had tak hota hai, uskey baad zulm nahi sahey aur agar haq par hai to sahi tareeqey se is mamley ko sujhaya jai. Agar koi rah nahi hai, aur saath rehna mumkin nhi tab talaq ka soocha jai. Susraal waley agar ziydti kar rahey hein to alag ghar ka mutalba bhi is masley ko suljha sakta hai.
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So true hum ap se itefaq karte hain, ye mamlat islamse dori ki bina par hote or phir barhte hain,
 
inaya said:
thnx bro.waisay hamari society may ye b bht hota hay k pahlay to bara kaha jata hay k hum foran bahir bula lay gay lekin phr bat khtm shud ho jati hay.meri family may hamaray kzn hay wo saudia hotay hay un ka proposal jb gya to larki k parents nay kaha jb aap hamari bachi k paperz tyar krwa lay gay to hum apni beti aap ko day day gay.idhar paperz tyar udhar nikah r aik hi mah may larki b apnay husband k sath bahir chali gye.
ye method b thek hay
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Bilkul ye hi hum logon ne apni choti bhen or bhai k ly kiya wo 2dono yahan canada main hain 5 sal phly 2no ki sath shadi hoi nikha phle kiya tak kagzat tyar ho sakin or jese hi kam mukamil hoa ye2no pakistan gae or hum sab bhi 2no ki bhabi ki rukhsti krwai or bhen ki rukhsati ki, 2 mahine sab sath wahan rahe or sath wapass yahan ap to 2no k pass bache bhi hain 1 bhi din miyan bv ko alag nahi rhna para,
 
bariaapi said:
Bilkul ye hi hum logon ne apni choti bhen or bhai k ly kiya wo 2dono yahan canada main hain 5 sal phly 2no ki sath shadi hoi nikha phle kiya tak kagzat tyar ho sakin or jese hi kam mukamil hoa ye2no pakistan gae or hum sab bhi 2no ki bhabi ki rukhsti krwai or bhen ki rukhsati ki, 2 mahine sab sath wahan rahe or sath wapass yahan ap to 2no k pass bache bhi hain 1 bhi din miyan bv ko alag nahi rhna para,
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han g bilkulhar ko aisa hi karna chahiay
 
inaya said:
han g but kisi jaga majbur b hotay hay r inki zindagi k faislay ki door un k hath may nai bulk dosroun k hath may hotai hay
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Bat islam se dori ii hi hai kiun k agar miyn bv or un k ghar walon ko sahih islam ki samjh hoto shadi k bad un ki zindahi k feslon ki door un hi k hath main honi chahe, hamra mazhab hum ko ye hi bata hai, ikhlaqi zimedariyan apni jhaga magar koi bhi aesi bat jis ko shohar bv 2no napasnd kar rahe hain un par zabrdasti thonsna najaiz hai gslt islam k khilaf hai,
 
bariaapi said:
Bat islam se dori ii hi hai kiun k agar miyn bv or un k ghar walon ko sahih islam ki samjh hoto shadi k bad un ki zindahi k feslon ki door un hi k hath main honi chahe, hamra mazhab hum ko ye hi bata hai, ikhlaqi zimedariyan apni jhaga magar koi bhi aesi bat jis ko shohar bv 2no napasnd kar rahe hain un par zabrdasti thonsna najaiz hai gslt islam k khilaf hai,
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g han bilkul yhe bat hay
 
larki ka asal ghr us ka apna susral hota ha maa bap ka farz ha bs un ki achi parwarish krna or un ki shadi krna bs is sy agy kuch ni humm maa ko kio bura khty ha maa to khud 1 din hamari jaga py hoti ha or ye sawal krti ha 1 larki ki zindgi esy hi chalti ha
 
Ana Zai said:
Allah ne es baat ki ijazat di hai k agr nhi banti to ahsan tareeqay se alag ho jayein
Wo larki 10 ya 20 saal wait hi q krti hai ?????????
Kya ussay Allah pr emaan nhi ???
Jo ek dar band krta hai to 100 Asbaab b provide krta hai.....
Personally Meri nazar mai b ek case aisa hai
Us larki ka Husband us k sath acha salooq nhi krta tha & Hath b chalata tha
Wo zulm bardast krti rehi q k wo wapis maa baap k ghar nhi ana chahti thi
But phr jb a gyi to ghar walon ka kharab rawiya
brothers & mother ussi ko blame krte thy
usko 10 yrs ho chukay hain apny husband ka ghar chore. us k husband ne 2nd marriage b kr li hai
but wo divorce nhi lena chahti
Why??????
Reasons:
1: First reason ye hai k us k father ek alaam e deen thy so wo un k name ko kharaab nhi krna chahti
2: Agr wo khula leti hai to Haq mehar chorna parta hai jo k bht zayada hai
3: Divorce mil gayi to log(relatives) Hansi urrayein gy
And shor divorce dy chuka hai but declare nhi kr raha
larki ko phone pr divorce di hai but written nhi dy raha just becoz of Haq mehr
Now tell me k Qasoor kis ka hai?????????????
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Point # 1. Allah has given both men and women various ways for separation. This is not only Talaq. If a man treats her wife badly, she initially should negotiate and try to sort out the understandings from misunderstandigs, accumulate what is good, do not immediately flush with fury.

Point # 2. If one of the partners is crossing the limits and the second one is having an unbearable behaviour, whether it is the man or a woman they should set a meeting amongst the parents.

Point # 3. The last and final option is according to Sharia is talaq (if it is man), or women can contact a judge (Quazi) for ٖ"Faskh-E-Nikah".
This is what Islam says.

But sadly, we are stuck in our dominant rather dud tradtions and etiquette.
What Iqbal said can truly be illustrated at this stage:
"Haqeeqat Kharaafaat Mein Khho Gayi,
Ye Ummat Riwaayaat Mein Khho Gayi"

we have to shun our lame Riwaayaat and Rusoomaat. A woman does bear all this oppression why? is it because she doesn't want to go back home? not at all. It is just because, no guy will marry her again because she has a spot of being divorced by another man. or she perceives a divorce as a decease. This is the one and only reason why she eradicates herself in a mess of spottage.

Hope we change somewhen.
 
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